I'm really in pain and for the first time this year, I had tears cloud up in my eyes but I had to be 'professional'.
One of my patients came today and his blood pressure was really high. He's a stroke patient but has been on antihypertensives. So, we started probing to know the psychological background of the problem.
That was when his brother said that he's usually refusing coming to the hospital. That they had to force him.
The patient is mildly aphasic, so he only says a few words. When we kept asking what the problem was, he screamed: 'My wife, My Wife'. And then he demonstrated push on the head with the fingers and slaps... We were really shocked. While were still trying to comprehend, he burst into tears. OK... At this point, I had to be really professional. We tried to calm him down and after he had calmed down, I took the brother aside for counseling. We invited the wife to see us the next treatment session.
I really felt bad!
We used to hear of wife abuse... It's not uncommon for a man to abandon his wife or children in the hospital, but for a wife to do that? It's uncommon!
I just want to write to Women generally... Before getting into marriage, know that the phrases: 'For BETTER , for WORSE', 'in SICKNESS and in HEALTH' are very real. We don't pray for evil but what if it happens?
Dear woman, please let's stop this husband abuse. That no foundation is fighting for the men doesn't mean that is right for them to be treated harshly, especially when they are helpless due to sickness.
When the Bible says that the wife should submit to her husband, it didn't include in any specific condition. It's both in sickness and in health; in wealth and in lack!
If you have your hubby, even if he's sick, take care of him. Trust me, your living hubby is better than a dead wealthy man.
Stop looking outside... If he doesn't have it today, stay with him and help him to have it tomorrow.
It's really painful seeing a woman leave her poor hubby for a rich man out there.
It's also bitter to see a man leave the wife of his youth to follow a woman out there, after those features that attracted him to the wife has reduced in quality or increased in size.
What do you seek to see or have in your wife, encourage her to goal and go for it.
Marriage is God's agenda that is built to keep a man and his wife, fulfilling purpose together.
To my fellow singles, please let's look before we leap. Let's not be hasty in making this Marital decision... God's original intention is that it will be for life. Partner with God and He will give you the right partner. If we delete divorce form our minds, we'd be more careful to make the decision and be ready to face whatever comes out of it.
I know I may not be the right person to write on this because I haven't gained 'experience', but I believe that if my Mum could stay for 13 years with my sick dad, loving and caring for him like they just fell in love, then, it is POSSIBLE!
Marriage is beautiful when we understand God's original plan.
A Beautiful marriage that grows till old age is Possible!
God will help us!
- Esther Nwachukwu
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