By Nwachukwu Esther
Loneliness is a common denominator amongst many single ladies. Most of the times you hear them gather together to talk, they discuss about how lonely they had been over the past two weeks and how badly they needed to get married. And of course this loneliness is usually in comparison with each other.
You hear things like:
"Argghh, your own better naa. At least, Uche comes around sometimes. Mine is that there is Nobody, like nobody!"
And they laugh at their helpless state, helplessly!
To be frank with you, the major worry of many ladies is how to get out
of their lonely state by getting a new boyfriend or a hubby. They begin
to visit every cool guy in the church for Bible study. They start
calling to check up on that guy that recently exchanged numbers with
them. Many spend more time chatting with that new guy believing that he
would in return, turn his hearts to love them, and of course, get
married to them.
That sounds very impressive and normal, right?
I beg to differ with these words which may be alien to many ladies:
"You don't need a man when you're Lonely!" Surprised???
Eve was given to Adam because God met him "Alone". Being alone is not the same as Being Lonely.
Adam was not lonely but Alone, meaning that in the real sense, he was doing his "work" all alone. Not that he didn't have any work to do.
Loneliness on the other hand is when "work" is absent.
Also, Aloneness is lack of company, but Loneliness is not lack of company but a feeling of isolation even in the midst of numerous friends.
Have you ever met people that had all the attention from all the men around them, but still feel lonely on the inside? They have friends that they chat with, talk with and even visit but they easily complain of how lonely they felt at different points and if you're one of those friends, you ask: "Okay... So, what have I been doing in your life all this while?"
The cure to Single Ladies' Loneliness is not Company because you can feel lonely in the company of friends but can feel very much fine when there is no company around you when something has happened!
What then can happen?
Remember we talked about Adam having a WORK but was alone, not lonely. The reason many Single ladies feel lonely is because they don't have a WORK!
(Hey! Don't stop reading here; Lemme explain what I mean.)
After school, the first thing that floods the minds of many Single ladies is Marriage. Just recently, career women started rising to counter that mindset of an average woman. But in many cases, no man comes for any serious relationship, so many ladies are pushed to get a job and take care of their needs and wants. They start working in a firm (mostly private) but they still complain every now and then that they are tired of the job, the job takes much of their and incredibly, they are BORED!
So I ask myself: "You got a job because you got tired of staying at home and being on the social media all day long and probably, your parents forced you to get a job through their attitude. You also advised yourself to get the job because you were so bored. Now, you got this 9-5 job and you still complain of this boredom? What then is the problem?? "
Why are some single ladies really joyful and fulfilled in their jobs and others always feel horrible waking up in the morning to go to that same office? Could it be because of the pay?
That's laughable!
According to a research report in the US, it was reported that about 70% of the individuals that have a job are unsatisfied and unfulfilled with their jobs, this is irrespective of the income of the individuals.
So, what then is the problem?
The problem is that many are engaged in a JOB but don't have a WORK! "What's the difference?" I can hear someone asking.
Your work can be your job but your job is not always your work!
Let's break it down further...
A Work is what you enjoy doing, with or without pay; it gives you a sense of fulfillment, so you engage in it with great passion. This can be said to be in line with your CALLING or PURPOSE.
Your JOB on the other hand is anything you do to EARN a LIVING, with or without fulfillment and most times is not in line with your calling or PURPOSE.
So, can I ask you: "Do you have a job or a work, young Lady"?
But then you ask: "How is that related to being lonely?"
Find out in the next series!
To be Continued...
Feel free to share...
#SingleAndAlone
#PossibilitiesOfSoaringHighLadiesAcademy
#SingleLadiesHangout
#26thMay2018
#PeekayGardensNewHavenEnugu
#NwachukwuEsther
That sounds very impressive and normal, right?
I beg to differ with these words which may be alien to many ladies:
"You don't need a man when you're Lonely!" Surprised???
Eve was given to Adam because God met him "Alone". Being alone is not the same as Being Lonely.
Adam was not lonely but Alone, meaning that in the real sense, he was doing his "work" all alone. Not that he didn't have any work to do.
Loneliness on the other hand is when "work" is absent.
Also, Aloneness is lack of company, but Loneliness is not lack of company but a feeling of isolation even in the midst of numerous friends.
Have you ever met people that had all the attention from all the men around them, but still feel lonely on the inside? They have friends that they chat with, talk with and even visit but they easily complain of how lonely they felt at different points and if you're one of those friends, you ask: "Okay... So, what have I been doing in your life all this while?"
The cure to Single Ladies' Loneliness is not Company because you can feel lonely in the company of friends but can feel very much fine when there is no company around you when something has happened!
What then can happen?
Remember we talked about Adam having a WORK but was alone, not lonely. The reason many Single ladies feel lonely is because they don't have a WORK!
(Hey! Don't stop reading here; Lemme explain what I mean.)
After school, the first thing that floods the minds of many Single ladies is Marriage. Just recently, career women started rising to counter that mindset of an average woman. But in many cases, no man comes for any serious relationship, so many ladies are pushed to get a job and take care of their needs and wants. They start working in a firm (mostly private) but they still complain every now and then that they are tired of the job, the job takes much of their and incredibly, they are BORED!
So I ask myself: "You got a job because you got tired of staying at home and being on the social media all day long and probably, your parents forced you to get a job through their attitude. You also advised yourself to get the job because you were so bored. Now, you got this 9-5 job and you still complain of this boredom? What then is the problem?? "
Why are some single ladies really joyful and fulfilled in their jobs and others always feel horrible waking up in the morning to go to that same office? Could it be because of the pay?
That's laughable!
According to a research report in the US, it was reported that about 70% of the individuals that have a job are unsatisfied and unfulfilled with their jobs, this is irrespective of the income of the individuals.
So, what then is the problem?
The problem is that many are engaged in a JOB but don't have a WORK! "What's the difference?" I can hear someone asking.
Your work can be your job but your job is not always your work!
Let's break it down further...
A Work is what you enjoy doing, with or without pay; it gives you a sense of fulfillment, so you engage in it with great passion. This can be said to be in line with your CALLING or PURPOSE.
Your JOB on the other hand is anything you do to EARN a LIVING, with or without fulfillment and most times is not in line with your calling or PURPOSE.
So, can I ask you: "Do you have a job or a work, young Lady"?
But then you ask: "How is that related to being lonely?"
Find out in the next series!
To be Continued...
Feel free to share...
#SingleAndAlone
#PossibilitiesOfSoaringHighLadiesAcademy
#SingleLadiesHangout
#26thMay2018
#PeekayGardensNewHavenEnugu
#NwachukwuEsther
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