Real love is unconditional and should be evident in all love relationships (see 1Corithians 13:4-7).
As a trainer and life coach. I was in a school some days ago to help the students develop their writing skill. Before that day, I have been to the school and have given them some home work session (assignment) to carry out.
On getting to the school club hall, I had a hand shake with all the students. I requested for the results of their assignment and some of the students were given excuses as at why they couldn't do the assignment.
I wasn't happy with such attitude, but i wouldn't allow that becloud my judgement and perception of them. Just as my culture, I always give the students _Inspiring Eye contact_ before I take my leave. Meanwhile, I was reluctant to give those who failed to do the assignment a lovely one.
I stare at them as someone who is mad at their personality. I had to pinched myself and force myself to smile.
One of the way to understand and influence a child way of thinking is by giving them Love, an unconditional one at all times.
The foundation of a solid relationship with a child is unconditional love. Only that type of love relationship can assure a child's growth to his full and total potential.
Only this foundation of unconditional love can assure prevention of such problems as feelings of resentment, being unloved, guilt, fear, insecurity.
What is unconditional love? _Unconditional love is loving a hold no what_ No matter what the child looks like. No matter what his assets, liabilities, handicaps. No matter what we expect him to be and most difficult, no matter how he acts. This does not mean of course, that we always like his behavior. Unconditional love means we love the child even when at times we may detest his behaviour.
Parents, and teachers likewise need to learn this.
Let's always remember these whenever we deal with children:
1_ They are children.
2_ They will tend to act like children
3_ Much of childish behaviour is unpleasant
4_ If I do my best to love them despite their childish behaviour, they will be able to mature and give up childish ways.
5_ If I love them only when they meet my requirements or expectations, they will feel incompetent. They will not feel genuinely loved, thus in turn will make them insecure damaged their self image, and actually prevent them from mental excellence.
How then can we show this unconditional love to children? What's child emotional tank? Is it right for our child to be angry? How can we handle a child anger?
Stay tuned as We will iron out these issues in the subsequent messages of this series. I call you productive!
I'm David Ped Edema
Mental Development and Productivity Coach.
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