"When you are open and someone takes advantage of it with the weakening acts of familiarity, you have to act in a different way.
When you are playful or informal or open to people, you simply want them to feel free to come to you and be themselves. You give yourself first in openness to serve as the space for them to do the same. Some people do not understand this. They feel like you opened the doors of expression for them to freely do what they like. At this point, you need to show character and teach them the kind of discipline you desire.
If you are hurt and new to the feelings from the abuse of your openness, you will react by closing the doors and you may not give people a second chance. As you relate more with people of this nature, you will naturally make adjustments to your attitude toward them. You will grow to being emotionally strong to state clearly what you don't like about their actions and watch them as they adjust their ways.
However, there are times that words may be ineffective in correcting people. You may need to show actions that will teach them a lesson. You need to be authentic in life. Authenticity is being real. In your openness and playful nature, you shouldn't be hiding your feelings especially if you want to solve the problems early enough. You may need to behave in a courageous but harmless way that the people will find it hard to believe you could. Your aim is to teach them the hard lessons about the place and value of respect in relationships.
Familiarity brings in unnecesary play that turns into insult and disrespect. You need to stop the play and send a warning to those that cross the boundaries in your life. Be free with people. Be open. Play. When they cross the boundary, do almost the same thing - be free, be open but instead of playing, be authentic because at that moment, what they need is a spice of your meanness.
Life is about being open, free and authentic."
Chukwukadibia Ude @ckadibia 18/06/2018
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