"You will find it hard to do positive things when your mind is filled with negative energy. You will need to learn why, when, how and where to say yes or no to people in what they want you to do for them.
Instead of saying yes to people and not doing what they want you to do for them with all your heart and mind, please say no. No, at first, may sound like you are stubborn or maybe you don't like them but saying yes and working with negativity takes you no where.
Why accept something and then be angry about it and the person? Why not say no or negotiate on where and when your yes will work in a calm way? If you do not have peace of mind doing anything, how can you even do it well?
'Yes with complaints' is operating with negative energy. Give yourself time to think about people's demands and requests. Let it go to bed with you. It is better to work out why you need to say yes than saying yes immediately. Giving yourself some time helps you negotiate well by knowing which part of the deal is a yes or no for you.
Listen to your heart and your mind. One may say yes. The other may say no. They may not necessarily be in disagreement. They may be pointing out to you to marry what they say to see whether you need to say yes, no or maybe a negotiated yes. Please, don't say yes to please people and then complain while you work for or with them. 'Yes without commitment' affects delivery negatively. 'Yes without commitment' is close to a 'no'. Say yes when and where you can help. Say no where and when you can't. It is not every no that means rejection.
It is only a man who understands the responsibilities, expectations and challenges of what he is called to do that says yes and commits it or no and explains why. Say yes when you mean it. Say no when it is necessary. 'No' is not always negative. 'Yes' without your heart in it will bring you negative energy.
You will benefit more in your work with others when you learn how to use the 'yes or no' tool wisely in negotiations and decision making. Your skill in using this tool is a big factor in controlling your state of mind in the delivery of responsibility."
Chukwukadibia Ude @ckadibia
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